If you are newly divorced, in the middle of a divorce, or separated from your spouse, the holidays during November and December can feel like a stressful marathon. Your life has changed dramatically, and it is important to acknowledge that your previous holiday routines and traditions may not be appropriate during this period in your life. Below are a few guidelines to remember for surviving and thriving during this holiday season. Remember that your primary goal is to create a new normal for yourself and foster a sense of well-being and self-care at this time. Take the stress of the legal details of divorce off your shoulders this season by contacting the legal professionals at the LLF Law Firm Family Law Team. If you have concerns about legal separation or divorce in Pennsylvania, the LLF Law Firm Family Law Team will answer all your questions and handle the legal details during this holiday period. Call us at 888.535.3686 or use our contact form .

Guideline # 1: You Are Not a Failure

One of the most common remarks people make about their marriage is that it “failed.” The problem with using that language is that it implies that the parties to the marriage are themselves failures. This can be a source of shame and self-condemnation, especially when discussing your current state during the holidays with family and friends. Instead of using such emotionally loaded words, consider simply saying that you are going through a divorce or separation and you would appreciate the support of friends and family during this time. Use this time period as a pause from your normal routine to personally reflect on what you are learning from this divorce. If your feelings are too painful to deal with alone, then seek emotional support from people you can trust and consider getting professional counseling and even medication for depression if needed.

Guideline #2: Consider Alternative or Simpler Holiday Traditions with Children

There will undoubtedly be things you must deal with related to the holidays, especially if you share custody of children from the marriage. It is important to spend meaningful time with your children, but it does not have to be the same traditions and activities as when you were married. Find things that can simplify your life but can still be enjoyable with the children, such as volunteering together at an animal shelter or watching a favorite movie. You can still bake cookies together, but consider a simpler dinner menu or even choose a good take-out meal.

Guideline #3: Practice Active Self-Care

The holiday season can be a time for you to reflect and gain a fresh perspective on the direction of your life. Don't feel pressured to maintain a heavy social schedule. Engaging in a daily mindfulness practice can help you slow down and reconnect in the present moment. Journaling your feelings or keeping a daily gratitude journal can bring a fresh perspective. Perhaps a holiday visit to a spa will renew your spirit.

Remember that your goal is not just to survive the holidays but to engage in self-care practices and traditions that will help you thrive and go forward with a new perspective on your life. The LLF Law Firm Family Law Team can be an important support during this holiday season, and they stand ready to protect your legal rights in your Pennsylvania divorce proceeding. Call us today at 888.535.3686 or use our contact form.