It's not unusual for an ex-spouse to date again after a divorce or to end up in a relationship where their new boyfriend or girlfriend becomes a regular part of their lives. In the vast majority of cases, this is fine, and while there may be some discomfort among the children you and your ex share about this new person in their lives, there's really nothing to worry about.
There are times, however, where the ex's new “significant other” may be a bad influence on your children or, worse, a danger to them. Perhaps the person drinks too much, consumes excessive amounts of recreational drugs, or hangs around questionable types of people. Or maybe the individual has a violent temper or appears to be taking an unhealthy interest in one of your children. It's when this happens that things can get difficult and, frankly, a bit scary, and you wonder what can be done about it.
Protecting the Best Interests of Your Children Comes First
Of course, there is sometimes a fine line between resenting a new person in your ex's life and having a real concern that this person is not someone who should be left unsupervised with your children. But if you have genuine concerns that are based on actual, verifiable facts, you need to act on those to protect your children.
This is when you want to consider modifying a custody agreement. A custody agreement goes into detail about where and with whom the children from the marriage are going to spend their time and it will also state who is allowed to make important decisions about the children's future. Whenever a situation arises in the life of either custodial parent that could adversely affect the welfare of the children, custody agreements or orders can be changed so as to protect the welfare of the children.
The welfare of the children – that's the key focus of any custody agreement. What is in the best interests of the child? And if a situation arises that threatens the best interests of the children, you owe it to your children to take action. In some cases, that will mean contacting your spouse and trying to work it out between the two of you first before making changes to the custody agreement. In other cases, you may need to work with your spouse's attorney instead. And in some situations, you may need to go to court to ask a judge to make the changes.
You Need the Help of an Experienced Legal Team
As you can see, things can get complicated very quickly, and when you're dealing with a situation involving a new boyfriend or girlfriend in your ex-spouses' life, matters can also get very emotional. This is where it helps tremendously to have the advice of an experienced lawyer such as Joseph D. Lento. Joseph D. Lento and the Lento Law Family Law Team have years of experience with exactly these kinds of sensitive situations. They understand how the law works, and how important it is to make sure that the best interests of your children come first.
If you have any concerns at all that a new partner in your ex-spouse's life may be a bad influence on your children or could harm them in any way, contact Joseph D. Lento and the Lento Law Family Law Team at once to discuss your concerns and learn more about how they can help. Call today at 888.535.3686, or reach out online to set up a consultation.